Periods of transition in our lives often come with a lot of pain, resistance and confusion. Losing a job, going through a breakup, or maybe a deep internal shift in the way you think and new realisations.
A fundamental rule to understand is that transitions always come with new transformation. There is not a single difficulty in life that doesn’t come with associated lessons and growth.
Whilst it’s also important to understand the ways we create our own suffering and rectify that, shift our toxic habits or make better life decisions - oftentimes, there is a deep call to do inner work and shift the pattern from its root.
And that’s how karmic patterns weave themselves through the experiences of our life - we know now that according to western science, a lot of our reality is created by our subconscious mind. And in traditional Hindu Vedic sciences, we also understand the domain of the mind as something we can gain mastery over as we ascend and purify our consciousness. This is the journey of Yog - or union.
So, let’s take a look at some of the things we can do to help navigate these massive shifts especially when it feels like its never-ending. This topic is very deep and these are just a few very general points - however remember that you are deserving of help and support too, always reach out to trusted people for help if you are really struggling.
1. Slowing down
In times of upheaval or transition, more often than not there is a call to slow down. We often want to zoom through life. Constantly thinking about the next thing, about the future. Times of transition call us to go deep within and hold a greater space with ourselves. What does this look like?
This look like allowing ourselves the time to sit, feel and write out emotions. Time to simply just be. Time to become more consciously aware of our present moment and what our soul, body and mind needs for nourishment. Through the process of slowing down and taking everything one day, one hour at a time; we more easily come back into that natural alignment of our spirit which will direct us where to go next.
And through this process of anchoring more deeply into our present, we are better able to release the past. The future becomes less of a concern and more of a free flow. Slow everything right down - eat slowly, write slowly, go right back to the beginning. Don’t try to do too many things at once, pick up just a couple and do them well.
2. Introspecting on the lessons
A necessary part of integrating any experience of period of upheaval involves introspecting on what lessons you’re learning from this and implementing it. For example, an interpersonal situation may bring us grief and we may think the solution is in the other person but its not. The solution is always within ourselves. Sometimes its painful to let go, to set boundaries; to acknowledge that we deserve better. If we failed at something, integrating those deeper lessons of self-worth — understanding that our self—worth is inherent and anchoring deeper into our inner strength which is beyond the fluctuations and changes of external situations.
A great way to do this is simply take the time to reflect in silence, and write down some of the new realisations and new learnings that have come to light. Write down new awareness that you have gained - positive awareness. There is space to rant and write down your feelings and there is also space to reflect on the new integrations that are forming as part of a higher level of awareness along your soul journey.
3. Surrendering trust
One of the hardest lessons to learn in life, is to release things we do not have control over. It’s one thing to be passive, which is not the meaning here. But rather, letting go of outcomes or situations that are beyond our control and on a much higher level, surrendering complete trust into the Divine for the cosmically intelligence flow of our life. This is a very scary thing - indeed, one of our biggest fears is our fear of the unknown. We fear losing things, we fear failure. We fear being alone. We fear change. And there is a space for us to feel and be heard in our vulnerability.
At the same time, the more that we can practice on a daily basis surrendering our trust into the Divine, the more those paradigms dissolve and the higher you float into your inner freedom. This could be as simple as looking in the mirror and making affirmation statements for example, ‘I now trust in the Divine intelligence of my life.’ This could be prayer, and on a deeper level, Bhakti (devotion) which is the most purifying of all activities and purifies our heart chakra.
There is much to explore on this topic of regaining self-trust and trusting life. It is a very deep and vast area that I believe I will keep exploring for the rest of my life (and lifetimes). But keeping this very short, do what feels good for you internally. That brings you a sense of anchoring and peace.
The bottom line to know is that no matter how uncertain external events may seem, or how difficult the transition process to reach from one level of life to another — there IS always a constant anchor of strength and presence within and flowing always. To a large extent, it’s just about exercising that muscle of awareness and continually reconnecting back - again and again. Moment to moment. Holding space for the difficult emotions. Loving ourselves through the low parts and actively working on building up that inner strength and reclaiming our Divine spiritual power.
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